Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Calling all moms of teenagers!!!!!!!!!

Will my teenage daughter ever like me again?

Casey seems to just hate me. I can't do anything right. I can't ever make her happy. We butt heads constantly.

Although, she would be happy if:
  • I gave her endless amounts of money
  • Didn't care about her grades
  • Let her go wherever she wanted
  • Let her stay up all night
  • Let her be on the computer during the school week
  • Didn't have to take her cell phone away during the school week
  • Let her watch endless amounts of TV
  • Didn't make her do her own laundry
  • Didn't make her clean her room
And basically, didn't speak to her.....ever.


shortmama said...

No teens for me so I have no advice, only sympathy and scared that one day this will be me too!

DiPaola Momma said...

Um this applies to tweenagers too. I spent insane amounts of money on a girls weekend in NYC for my 10 year old daughter's birthday... the love lasted until we hit Brooklyn. I feel for ya and fear for me!

Angie said...

I have 2 teenagers~ Alana is 13 & Chris is 15. It's so hard. I have spent endless nights crying over my (lack of) relationship with my son. Chris is in a *phase*. Very selfish, and God knows why, but he thinks he is better than everyone else..his clothing *must* come from expensive stores, and the biggest one that REALLY hurts my feelings....he will NOT invite friends over to our home. He says that we "don't have cool stuff". OH you don't even KNOW how upset this makes me and my husband. (My husband is Chris's step-father; I met hubby already having 2 kids, then we added 2 of our own).. Anyways, we live in a nice house ( but obviously not good enough), and he has all the *up-to-date* cool game systems, tv in his room, stereo, ect ect...it's NEVER good enough.. His high school happens to be one where the main demographic of people have MONEY. And because of this, he has fallen into the trap that unless you live in the upper scale homes & can shop wherever you want, that you are worthless....I could go on & on...funny thing is, he acts the way I'd expect a teenage GIRL to act...lol...my teen daughter is the opposite...very down to earth & appreciative most of the time... So I basically just wanted to let you know that I'm going through a similiar situation & I feel for ya momma. Sending prayers of comfort your way...

Bobbi Jo said...

I have 3 teens at the time. The oldest is 18 and is married now. Thank heavens, it changed the dynamics of the family and the relationship. She now doesn't think we are idiots.
My son is in the rebellious stage and sometimes I just want to send him to military school.
My third teen is pushing the limits now due to a new friend. Bad news on that friend. I can sympathize with you. I will pray for you but just know it does get better. I know we are suppose to learn from our trials but holy cow sometimes you just want to say enough is enough. Hugs, Bobbi Jo

Bobbi Jo said...

Oh one more thing. You need to remember that the hormones are raking havoc on the teens especially the girls. Think before you speak and listen. Hugs, Bobbi Jo

Briamckenz said...

Wow I think you just described my 12 yr old. We took her cell from her for 2 weeks because for 1) her mouth and rudeness were outta control and for 2) she texted 15000texts last month... that was insane! She is always comparing me to her friends mom and says things I don't think she realizes hurts my feelings. I have reached the ;point where if she wants to argue with me I just walk away while saying I am not gonna argue with you, figure it is better then arguing all the time. I cam not looking forward to the next 6-8 years because I also have two ten yr old girls.. I do wish you luck though!

Rebecca Jo said...

Working with teens in our youth program at church... its funny to hear them with their relationships with their mom...

Somewhere along the line, they realize how important their mother is & all you do is to help them...

Its just having patience to get to that point... hang in there!

Rhonda said...

I feel your pain. It's like a roller coaster!! My oldest is 15 and she is starting to act human again, most of the time. But we also don't let her take her phone to school (that's cheap!), she has to have it hung up, in the kitchen, by 10:00 on school nights (I'm not a little girl anymore, you know!!), midnight on weekends (my friends don't have these strict rules!!!), and have certain 'friends' that she isn't allowed to hang with after school hours (what, you think we're going to go to wild parties and smoke weed?? You don't trust me at all!!).

And through it all, I just keep saying "I love my life I love my life I love my life." And yes, I say it right in front of them!! lol

{Katie Lane} said...

I was totally one of those teens. I used to cry and scream and tell my mother I hated her, but looking back it was all to get attention. I didn't feel like she listened to me or respected me. Just realize that although your daughter is young, her problems are real.

Listen to her with sympathy. Maybe sit down and work out a plan like - if you clean your room you can watch tv. Simple things can make a big difference.

KC Mom said...

Ha! I found your blog by chance this morning...via sits and another blogger who listed your blog as receiving one of her newly discovered awards.
I had to laugh because I have 3 teenage daughters. One of which just turned 18. It's crazy how much they hate me sometimes. Now I'm trying to balance all that with having one of them become an "adult". It's a rollercoaster ride with these teenagers but I keep imagining what my own Mom must have gone through. It's a good thing there weren't cell phones back when I was a teenager.
Hang in there...I hear it gets better!

The Main Ladybug said...

Aww, I'm sorry, but Yes, one of these days Casey will be your best friend in the entire world (I promise). Just keep strong, and she will appreciate your efforts in good time.

Have a blessed day!